Some time ago a nurse Ware asked their dying patients what they would regret most. The number one is ‘I wish I hadn’t worked so hard‘. What would yours if you knew today would be your last day.
Nobody talked about a visit to the Taj Mahal or the bungee jumps that had nod been done or maybe that brand new car they never had bought.
The nurse, working in the department where people spended their last days, recorded a top 5 of things people regretted (not) doing in their lives. Many regrets were often the same…
Here are the top five regrets of the dying, as witnessed by Nurse Ware:
1. I wish I’d had not lived the life others expected of me
“This was the most told regret of all. When life is almost over and people look back, it is easy to see how many plans and dreams have gone unfulfilled. Many important choiches may not have been made because others did not supoort these choices.
2. I wish I had not worked so hard
“Most male patients told this one. They missed out on their children’s youth and lacked their partner’s companionship. Soveral women also spoke of this regret, but most were from an older generation, where many of the female patients had not have a job. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on their job.”
3. I wish I had expressed my feelings more
“Many people suppressed their feelings to keep peace with others. So they may never became who they were truly theirselves. Several had become sick of bitterness and resentment.”
4. I wish I kept contact with my friends
“Often the patients had become so busy in their own lives that they had let good friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not losing friendships and the lacked effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when death is coming near.”
5. I wish that I had been happier
“Many people did not realise that happiness can be a choice in many cases. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and old habits. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were happy. Deep inside, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.”
What’s your greatest regret in life?
Source: The Guardian